Public Speaking and the Family
Did you know that the most public speakers had their public speaking debut in their own families?
Well it is true. The first place that one starts to learn the tools of the trade is at home amongst ones family. And after a time those skills are further nurtured and refined at school.
In this article I would like to focus on how you—a child or an adult can advance your public speaking skills within your family.
Families can be a source of great joy or it can be a place of conflict but in either situation communication is at the heart of the matter. If you have good communication—conflicts can be easily resolved and harmony can be restored within the family. If you have poor communication—conflicts can escalate and it can make home life unbearable.
Public speaking is the ability to communicate with ones audience in a way that they can understand, follow and benefit from. This is similar to what many of us desire in our families. We want to be understood, that people can follow our train of thought and that what we say to them can be of benefit to them or to ourselves. This is effective communication.
How can this be achieved?
LISTENING
How well do you listen? Learning how to actively listen is the key to being able to present your thought, feelings or ideas properly. Listening will help you to understand what is being said or being asked. When you listen well you are better prepared to give the appropriate response—a response that is thought out and that will address the concern, problem or situation.
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO SAY
Think about what it is that you really want to say. This is your opportunity to plan. Mentally outline what you want to say. Then take a few moments to reflect on is it…
THE BEST WAY TO SAY IT
If you truly desire for the listener to pay attention to you, you want to express yourself in a way that will promote open dialog and will encourage continued sharing. If the person gets offended he or she will tune you out. They will not want to hear from you and you have alienated your audience. Your opportunity for them to understand, learn or benefit would be lost.
YOUR TONE MATTERS
This is why how you say it matters just as much or even more so then what you say. Are you yelling, are you belittling, are you insulting…this will decide if the person will continue to listen to your or to share his thoughts with you.
As a public speaker you want to keep control of your emotions, think through what you want to say and you want to encourage openness where your audience feels that they can talk and share with you.
Your family is a wonderful place to develop these skills—especially if you want to go into politics! Confrontation and conflicts go with the territory. You don’t always have to agree but you should allow others to be respectfully heard as you desire to be heard.
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